I think of my childhood as fairly normal. I guess the only part that is obviously not normal is the fact I cannot remember a time that my parents were in the same room together, and they divorced when I was about 11 or so (my brothers don’t have memories of that either.) Don’t get me wrong, my life was not perfect by any means; a lot was kept hidden from me and my brothers (rightfully so).
To begin, I grew up in a “Christian” home and we went to church most every Sunday. I remember sitting up in the balcony like normal and just having this strong urge to go down in front of the church to “proclaim my faith” in front of the church. That day, my family and I walked down to the front of the church. We were introduced and then at the end of the service everyone came by to shake my hand. From there, I was baptized a couple of weeks later. It’s not an intense story by any means but I will extend it by telling the story of how/why we moved to Phoenix and what it’s meant to me.
So how did I get to Phoenix? Well, I’ll tell you. =) I’m just gonna jump right in. It was the summer of ’96 and my mom told me and my brothers to start packing because we would be moving. I assumed that after living in the country for 3 years, we would be moving into the city, a ten-minute drive away. When it came to three days before we were to move, my mom told us she got a job in Phoenix, AZ. We then started saying our goodbyes within that short time. As she had planned we moved to Phoenix. We had no place to live yet; therefore, we stayed at her new boss’s house for about a month until we found our own place.
The three of us were completely miserable and angry with my mom. Not to mention, we weren’t even about to give Phoenix a chance. Life had to resume though, so shortly after our move Andrew and I began our freshman year in high school. My mom had registered us for all of the same classes so we would actually know someone. About one month into our “new life,” Michael, 18 at the time, decided to move back to live with my dad. My dad flew to Phoenix, helped Michael pack his stuff and drove back to Alexandria. He thought that living with my dad would be better than life in Phoenix, but before long he would realize that there was more to being happy.
Andrew soon followed. He started writing my dad several letters telling him about how miserable his life was and expressed his desire to move back. Andrew would ask my dad, “If Michael did it, why can’t I?” and he would tell him that he was working on it, which meant he was setting up a custody battle. Sure enough my mom was subpoenaed to court in Louisiana for November 24th 1996, so we all three flew back. After a couple of hours of sitting and listening to my mom and my dad battle it out, and having the judge read Andrew’s letters out loud, the custody was determined. You’d think that no one in their right mind would think that it would be ok to separate fourteen year old best friends and twins, but that day we were proven wrong. My dad won custody of my brother and he was scheduled to move back in the middle of January. We were very upset with Andrew for having us go through all of this. For the longest time I was mad at him. I used to think, “How could you break away from your other half just to be back in your comfort zone?” and “Why would you do this to me?”
When January came around Andrew left and I was left with only my mom. I was truly by myself now considering I had never been without siblings, especially Andrew. He had been my absolute best friend up until this moment. I was all alone and depressed. After repelling people at school for many months now, it was clear to me that it was time to break out of my shell. I slowly started meeting a few friends at school.
Michael had lived with my dad for a while now and he realized that wasn’t what he wanted. He wanted to have a close relationship with his family, one that my dad had not provided. The last part of June, I flew back to Alexandria to visit. I was very excited, not just to see my friends and family, but also because I would be driving back with Michael. Now it would not be quite as lonely at home.
To sum my shortened story up, I was especially mad at my mom for moving us out here in general, but with such short notice, too. I also was angry with God and at the time I didn’t understand why. We found North Phoenix Baptist Church shortly after moving here but I wanted nothing to do with it. In the beginning, Andrew and I would just ditch Bible study and mess around the campus. Then once he left, I would just have a friend or two from school go to church with me. When Michael moved back we got involved with the college group and finally felt accepted. We also ended up meeting Jared & Jen, not to mention we had a fun couple for our Bible study leaders. Who would’ve known we would still be in contact with these guys. I mean you could practically call them our best friends/Christian example. I am one that believes that everything happens for a reason and I would ask God all the time why Andrew left, but now I just accept the fact that there was a good reason; it brought Michael, my mom and I closer and Michael and I now share the bond that Andrew and I shared long ago. Yeah, I lost my real twin brother, yet it has brought me and Michael so much closer than I could’ve imagined. Not to mention we got some great friends out of the whole deal. =)